My son is being bullied.
I'm not just talking about being called names like stupid or gay (which he has been called).
I'm talking about being punched in the stomach repeatedly, and most recently (today) basically being choked. The way Kaleb described it, the other kid had one of his arms pinned behind his back and had an arm across Kaleb's neck/throat, trying to choke him. The speech teacher stopped him - i.e. the kid saw her and took off running. But that wasn't the end. The kid WAITED for Kaleb to come back, then jumped out at him and grabbed him. The speech teacher came back out again and stopped him, and Kaleb made it back to class. His teacher could tell he was upset so she took him out and talked to him, and he told her what happened.
We've had conversations all year about telling an adult when he is bullied, but Kaleb usually doesn't say anything until he is physically harmed. I asked him today if he yelled for help and he said "I thought about it, but I wasn't sure what to do."
First of all, no 5th grade kid (or ANY kid for that matter) should even have to figure out what to do in a scenario like this. Because no kid should be put in this scenario to begin with. It makes me mad. I'm mad at the school. I'm mad at the bully. I'm mad at whoever it is who is bullying the bully, because you know that these kids are either from a broken home and being abused or neglected, or being bullied himself. Maybe that doesn't account for ALL bullies, but it applies to a large number of them.
I emailed the school last week over a DIFFERENT bullying issue. I was very encouraged by an email exchange with Kaleb's teacher, but that isn't going to stop the bullies. How can I protect my son? Emotionally, I think I have a pretty good handle on that. But I can't physically protect him each day at school. And lest anyone think that this is JUST a public school issue, it's not. Kaleb was bullied last year at his private, Christian school.
I just hate feeling helpless as a mother.
Yes, I know.
I can pray. And I do.
I just wish that I could somehow protect him from being physically harmed.
I wish that these boys that target him would just stop.
Or be transferred to a different school.
Does anyone have any experience with this? Is there anything I can do, or something I should be saying to the school officials? I know that they are already "dealing" with these boys, because the boys are constantly in trouble. But is that enough? Help!